Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Age Difference in Relationships With Men - Does it Even Matter? The Answer May Surprise You
Will age difference in relationships with men be a problem for you? There's no good answer to that question.Perhaps the best answer is, "It depends.".Just like any relationship, there is no guarantee things will work out when you're dating a man who is much younger or much older than you.However, plenty of evidence suggests it CAN work out.Just look to Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore if you need a real-world example.You just have to keep a few things in mind so age difference doesn't become a problem with the men you date.First, realize age difference is more of a factor when you're young than when you're old.For example, let's talk about an 8 year age difference.If you're 20, obviously it would be wrong to date a man who was 12 (highly illegal) and might feel a little weird dating a man who was 28.However, if you're 35 dating a man who is 27 or a man who is 43, it's doesn't seem like such a big deal.The older you get, the less the age gap seems to matter.Second, understand problems can arise in making life decisions with a partner who is much older or much younger than you.If you're still in college and dating an older man, is he willing to wait and support you in your career aspirations, or does he want you to settle down and marry him? If you're older and at the age of wanting to start a family, is he at an old enough age to even be thinking about commitment and marriage?These are the types of scenarios where age difference in relationships with men can become a real problem.You have to decide what's most important to you in life because some challenging decisions will have to be made throughout the course of your relationship.In terms of how you feel about your man and how he feels about you, age shouldn't matter.As they say, true love knows no bounds.If you connect on a deep level, then it really doesn't matter how big the age gap is between you and your man.Just realize you will probably have different wants, needs, and desires in the relationship so communication will be absolutely critical to make sure both you and your partner are getting everything you need to be happy.Also be prepared to have people judge you unfairly.When people see a young woman with a much older man, they often think she is a gold digger who is just after his status and money.Likewise an older woman with a much younger man can be seen as a female with a strong sexual appetite who needs a young man to keep up with her and satisfy her.
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